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How to be happier by asking yourself these 4 questions.

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What is the first thing you do when you wake up?

What is the last thing you do before you go to bed?

Every one of us probably has a different routine to get going in the morning and to wind down at night, but regardless of your individual routine, I have personally found these 4 questions to create more positivity, more happiness, more self-awareness and ultimately, more success in my life.

Ultimately, these questions have taught me how to live happier.

When you wake up…

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1st Thought Everyday: Today is going to be a great day!

Question #1: What am I going to do today that will positively influence the people around me?

Question #2: What action will I take that will get me one step closer to achieving my definition of success?

First, I start by telling myself that today is going to be a great day. Cheesy as it sounds, when the first thought of the day is a positive one, it sets the tone for the rest of the day. I’ve noticed that even when I get up at 5 in the morning and am exhausted, one positive thought makes all the difference.

Now moving on to the two questions that will help you increase success and happiness. Each question is significant in its own way. When you answer these questions, you are not tasking yourself to come up with something monumental or life-altering. You don’t need to come up with something that will change the world. In fact, it can be as small or as big as you want. The key is that you take action because once you take action, good things start to happen. I have found this to be true first-hand as one small action leads to another which leads to a bigger action which leads to continuous action which leads to your own version of success and happiness.

To give you an idea of what some answers for the first question could possibly look like…

Smaller actions:

Today, I am going to make someone in the office laugh.

Today, I am going to smile every time I see someone.

Today, I am going to buy the person behind me in line lunch.

Today, I am going to call my parents and tell them I love them.

Bigger actions:

Today, I am going to create a plan to host a charity event.

Today, I am going to volunteer at the local hospital.

Today, I am going to donate $20 to the charity of my choosing.

Want to know the one true way to truly learn how to be happier? Giving back. Reciprocity.

One of the beautiful things about doing things for others is that every time you do it, there is a sense of accomplishment. I don’t know about you, but I feel really good about myself for making someone else’s day better. What’s really awesome is that not only do you feel good, but you are going to be more positive yourself when you help others. It is a weird concept but when you help others you are actually helping yourself!

Now for the second question and how to get one step closer to achieving your definition of success…

Smaller actions:

Today, I am going to eat one piece of fruit instead of my daily candy bar.

Today, I am going to walk for 15 minutes.

Today, I am going to do 10 pushups every commercial break during my hour TV show.

Today, I am going to compliment my staff because I want to improve employee satisfaction.

Today, I am going to tell my kids and significant other how much I love them!

Bigger actions:

Today, I am going to create a business plan for the company I want to create.

Today, I am going to exercise for at least an hour and run 2 miles.

Today, I am going to ask my boss for a raise.

Today, I am going to apply for 5 jobs in a field that I want to be in.

All of these actions are just ideas as you want to choose something that is applicable to your life, situation and your definition of success. We are all on own journey and path, so make sure to do something that will lead to achieving your definition of success and not someone else’s.

When you go to bed…

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Last thought: Today was a great day and I’m thankful for everything I have!

Question #1: What did I do today to positively impact the lives of those around me?

Question #2: What did I do today to get one step closer to achieving my definition of success?

As you take a look at the final two questions, I want you to think about your day and how much better you felt knowing you did something to make someone else’s day better. At the same time, think about how just taking one action for yourself helped make today a great day.

When you answer these questions before you go to bed, sometimes it is best to write them down. That way, you are able to track your actions and start to visualize on paper the impact you are having on yourself and others. This is a process that takes time, but it all starts with the first action and that is the mindset of wanting to increase positivity, happiness and success in your life.

As you can tell, these four questions can begin your day on a positive note and end your day on a positive note. By taking one action each day, you will be able to live a more fulfilled and positive lifestyle. I invite you to begin asking yourself these 4 questions and begin create a journey worth living and a story worth writing!

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Written by Jake Kelfer

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Jake Kelfer is a lifestyle entrepreneur who aims to inspire people on their journey to personal success and happiness. His best-selling book, Elevate Beyond, provides a framework for gaining an advantage in work and life. You can connect with him at JakeKelfer.com or email him at jakekelferjourney@gmail.com

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